Miyerkules, Hunyo 24, 2015
Soapy Nuru Massage
Doesn't a soapy Nuru Massage sound good right now? In these pics, you will see some of the hottest, soapy fun you will ever experience. Imagine yourself being the guy in the tub?
Touching a Man
At first blush it seems a simple proposition. Anyone can do it. However, the reality can be as different as “chopsticks” is to a Brahms concerto. A “stick figure” compared to a to a Vermeer painting.
The male body must first be understood before it may be played in the same manner as a virtuoso commands a musical instrument. Unfortunately most women have only marginal or little understanding of the male anatomy. The inevitable ineptitude often produces sour notes. [Conversely the same can be said about men and their level of appreciation for the female body, but this is another subject entirely.]
The problem stems from the fact that male and female genitalia are entirely different from one another. Understandably, the result is that it’s difficult for a woman to know how to best touch a man. Despite the fact that a woman’s clitoris is something of counterpart to a man’s penis, stimulating each to the pinnacle of arousal involves very different techniques. This circumstance results in a host of faulty assumptions, guesswork and experimentation. While some women may mimic the techniques they might have seen in “Blue” movies, others may attempt to refer to what they’ve read in a range of publications.
Ultimately the majority simply proceed by trial and error, in the hope that their partners response will serve as a guide. The drawback with this methodology is that many men are not able to effectively communicate their desires verbally or may be embarrassed to make use of “show & tell". Quite a few men may not even be aware of the most effective techniques themselves.
Not surprisingly many men feel that women aren't sufficiently skilled at handling penises. Specific complaints range from grips which are too limp, to a lack conviction and exuberance. Women seem hesitant to apply pressure, and often pull or tug at inappropriate moments; continuously disrupting the all important rhythm.
Often women have little sense of how to control the ebb and flow of orgasmic sensations. A woman’s hands are capable of amazing erotic pleasuring, much more than most anyone can imagine. It’s little appreciated that this is an acquired talent. Subtle techniques, the male genitalia as well as adjacent erotic zones must first be understood... continue to:
The male body must first be understood before it may be played in the same manner as a virtuoso commands a musical instrument. Unfortunately most women have only marginal or little understanding of the male anatomy. The inevitable ineptitude often produces sour notes. [Conversely the same can be said about men and their level of appreciation for the female body, but this is another subject entirely.]
The problem stems from the fact that male and female genitalia are entirely different from one another. Understandably, the result is that it’s difficult for a woman to know how to best touch a man. Despite the fact that a woman’s clitoris is something of counterpart to a man’s penis, stimulating each to the pinnacle of arousal involves very different techniques. This circumstance results in a host of faulty assumptions, guesswork and experimentation. While some women may mimic the techniques they might have seen in “Blue” movies, others may attempt to refer to what they’ve read in a range of publications.
Ultimately the majority simply proceed by trial and error, in the hope that their partners response will serve as a guide. The drawback with this methodology is that many men are not able to effectively communicate their desires verbally or may be embarrassed to make use of “show & tell". Quite a few men may not even be aware of the most effective techniques themselves.
Not surprisingly many men feel that women aren't sufficiently skilled at handling penises. Specific complaints range from grips which are too limp, to a lack conviction and exuberance. Women seem hesitant to apply pressure, and often pull or tug at inappropriate moments; continuously disrupting the all important rhythm.
Often women have little sense of how to control the ebb and flow of orgasmic sensations. A woman’s hands are capable of amazing erotic pleasuring, much more than most anyone can imagine. It’s little appreciated that this is an acquired talent. Subtle techniques, the male genitalia as well as adjacent erotic zones must first be understood... continue to:
Tantra
Tantra like Yoga or Zen, is a path to enlightenment, which has its roots in India. It is nicknamed the "science of ecstasy" and focuses on heightening and prolonging the special awareness and rapport that exists between lovers during lovemaking. This view holds that the greatest source of energy in the universe is sexual, and places high value on ritualized intercourse. Sexual orgasm is seen as a cosmic and divine experience.
Tantric philosophy also teaches that everything is to be experienced playfully, yet with awareness and a sense of sacredness in every gesture, every sensory perception, and every action. The path of Tantra is a spiritual one, which includes and appreciates the experience of our sexuality and sensuality as a conscious meditation, as a flowing together of the physical, sexual and cosmic energies.
If you were a devoted student of tantric philosophy, you would go through an extensive program of physical, sexual and mental exercises to heighten your sensory awareness. Through slow and thoughtful practice in lovemaking techniques you would learn to comfortably extend the time of lovemaking. In this way you would train yourself to be aware of not only your own feelings but also those of your partner. The spiritual part of tantra is to use your sexual energy to merge ecstatically with your partner and through him or her to become one with the cosmos or god.
A heterosexual couple practicing tantric intercourse seeks to prolong their sexual arousal. Following slow sensual touching a couple might move to having very slow intercourse. The man might place his penis just an inch or so inside his partner's vagina and without thrusting allow it to remain in this position for a full minute. Then he may gently withdraw from her vagina and rest his penis softly on her clitoral area. Usually the clitoris is the most sensitive part of a female's genitals and it is located just above the vaginal opening. After resting in this position for another minute the couple may decide to have him again slide his penis back in. During subsequent cycles of resting and entering the vagina, the male would rest outside the vagina and then eventually rest just inside the vagina. During the rest times, the couple might just lie silently together, or gently caress each other as they focus on the experience of their union. Throughout this experience both partners may be highly aroused, hovering close to the point of reaching orgasm on several occasions.
The art of prolonging the pleasures of lovemaking without reaching orgasm is described in the Kama Sutra, the Hindu sex manual written in the 4th century. "Karezza" is the term used to define a male's practice of pleasuring his partner and prolonging their intercourse by perpetuating his state of climax without actually ejaculating. These so called "dry orgasms", orgasms without ejaculation, are pleasurable, and still allow the sexual act to continue. The art of Karezza incorporates breathing control, meditation, work with postures, and finger pressure into the sexual act. Though sexually biased in its description as written (remember it was the 4th Century), the original focus of Karezza, prolonging the state of climax for a couple's mutual enjoyment, easily translates to both partners actively participating in learning to prolong their enjoyment before reaching orgasm.
Tantric philosophy also teaches that everything is to be experienced playfully, yet with awareness and a sense of sacredness in every gesture, every sensory perception, and every action. The path of Tantra is a spiritual one, which includes and appreciates the experience of our sexuality and sensuality as a conscious meditation, as a flowing together of the physical, sexual and cosmic energies.
If you were a devoted student of tantric philosophy, you would go through an extensive program of physical, sexual and mental exercises to heighten your sensory awareness. Through slow and thoughtful practice in lovemaking techniques you would learn to comfortably extend the time of lovemaking. In this way you would train yourself to be aware of not only your own feelings but also those of your partner. The spiritual part of tantra is to use your sexual energy to merge ecstatically with your partner and through him or her to become one with the cosmos or god.
A heterosexual couple practicing tantric intercourse seeks to prolong their sexual arousal. Following slow sensual touching a couple might move to having very slow intercourse. The man might place his penis just an inch or so inside his partner's vagina and without thrusting allow it to remain in this position for a full minute. Then he may gently withdraw from her vagina and rest his penis softly on her clitoral area. Usually the clitoris is the most sensitive part of a female's genitals and it is located just above the vaginal opening. After resting in this position for another minute the couple may decide to have him again slide his penis back in. During subsequent cycles of resting and entering the vagina, the male would rest outside the vagina and then eventually rest just inside the vagina. During the rest times, the couple might just lie silently together, or gently caress each other as they focus on the experience of their union. Throughout this experience both partners may be highly aroused, hovering close to the point of reaching orgasm on several occasions.
The art of prolonging the pleasures of lovemaking without reaching orgasm is described in the Kama Sutra, the Hindu sex manual written in the 4th century. "Karezza" is the term used to define a male's practice of pleasuring his partner and prolonging their intercourse by perpetuating his state of climax without actually ejaculating. These so called "dry orgasms", orgasms without ejaculation, are pleasurable, and still allow the sexual act to continue. The art of Karezza incorporates breathing control, meditation, work with postures, and finger pressure into the sexual act. Though sexually biased in its description as written (remember it was the 4th Century), the original focus of Karezza, prolonging the state of climax for a couple's mutual enjoyment, easily translates to both partners actively participating in learning to prolong their enjoyment before reaching orgasm.
Tantra for Couple
This session contains all of the elements of the "individual" tantric session, including sensual bath and tantric massage. To gain a better sense of this encounter it might best to walk through one of a few possibilities:
After your arrival in our studio and prior to the start of the session, your tantrica will begin to create a trusting and comfortable relationship. While getting to know each other it often helps to calm jittery nerves and anxiety with a glass of wine or two. This will also present a wonderful opportunity to chat and candidly discuss all desires which may be anticipated during the session. When everyone feels comfortable with one another the session may begin.
The goddess will now invite you to enter the inner sanctum of her sacred space. She will help each of you to disrobe in preparation of the bath ceremony. Practical time considerations may limit this ceremony to one of the partners. In which case it's usually more appropriate to reserve this privilege for the female partner. In the event that "both" partners would like to be bathed, it would be necessary to plan for a somewhat longer session in advance. This sensual bath is the perfect way to prepare for the tantric massage which follows.
Your tantrica would begin the session by demonstrating various techniques on both of the partners, alternating her attention so that one partner may observe. The other partner will also have the opportunity join in and practice. In this rotating manner, first one partner, then the other will have to chance to be either the tantrica's subject or assistant. The couple may practice these newly discovered techniques on one another, as often as they might desire. All elements involved in this session are described in great detail elsewhere within this website (see multiple orgasm, tantra, yoni and lingam massage).
After your arrival in our studio and prior to the start of the session, your tantrica will begin to create a trusting and comfortable relationship. While getting to know each other it often helps to calm jittery nerves and anxiety with a glass of wine or two. This will also present a wonderful opportunity to chat and candidly discuss all desires which may be anticipated during the session. When everyone feels comfortable with one another the session may begin.
The goddess will now invite you to enter the inner sanctum of her sacred space. She will help each of you to disrobe in preparation of the bath ceremony. Practical time considerations may limit this ceremony to one of the partners. In which case it's usually more appropriate to reserve this privilege for the female partner. In the event that "both" partners would like to be bathed, it would be necessary to plan for a somewhat longer session in advance. This sensual bath is the perfect way to prepare for the tantric massage which follows.
Your tantrica would begin the session by demonstrating various techniques on both of the partners, alternating her attention so that one partner may observe. The other partner will also have the opportunity join in and practice. In this rotating manner, first one partner, then the other will have to chance to be either the tantrica's subject or assistant. The couple may practice these newly discovered techniques on one another, as often as they might desire. All elements involved in this session are described in great detail elsewhere within this website (see multiple orgasm, tantra, yoni and lingam massage).
Yoni Massage
Yoni is the Sanskrit word for the vagina that is loosely translated as "sacred space" or "Sacred Temple." In Tantra, the Yoni is seen from a perspective of love and respect. This is particularly important for men to learn.
Before beginning the Yoni Massage it is important to create a space for the woman (the receiver) in which to relax, from which she can more easily enter a state of high arousal and experience great pleasure from her Yoni. Her partner (the giver) will experience the joy of giving pleasure and witnessing a special moment. The Yoni Massage can also be used as a form of "safe sex" and is an excellent activity to build trust and intimacy. Some massage and sex therapists use it to assist women to break through sexual blocks or trauma.
The goal of the Yoni massage is not solely to achieve orgasm, although orgasm is often a pleasant and welcome side effect. The goal can be as simple as to pleasure and massage the Yoni. From this perspective both receiver and giver can relax, and do not have to worry about achieving any particular goal. When orgasm does occur it is usually more expanded, more intense and more satisfying. It is also helpful for the giver to not expect anything in return, but simply allow the receiver to enjoy the massage and to relax into herself.
The Massage
Have the receiver lie on her back with pillows under her head so she can look down at her genitals and up at her partner (giver). Place a pillow, covered with a towel, under her hips. Her legs are to be spread apart with the knees slightly bent (pillows or cushions under the knees will also help) and her genitals clearly exposed for the massage. This position allows full access to the Yoni and other parts of the body. Before contacting the body, begin with deep, relaxed breathing. Both giver and receiver should remember to breathe deeply, slowly and with relaxation during the entire process. The giver will gently remind the receiver to start breathing again if the receiver stops or begins to take shallower breaths. Deep breathing, not hyperventilating, is most important.
Gently massage the legs, abdomen, thighs, breasts, etc., to encourage the receiver to relax and for the giver to prepare for touching her Yoni. Pour a small quantity of a high-quality oil or lubricant on the mound of the Yoni. Pour just enough so that it drips down the outer lips and covers the outside of the Yoni. Begin gently massaging the mound and outer lips of the Yoni. Spend time here and do not rush. Relax and enjoy giving the massage.
Gently squeeze the outer lip between the thumb and index finger, and slide up and down the entire length of each lip. Do the same to the inner lips of the Yoni/vagina. Take your time. It is helpful for giver and receiver to look into each other's eyes as much as possible. The receiver should tell the giver if the pressure, speed, depth, etc. need to be increased or decreased. Limit your conversation and focus on the pleasurable sensation, too much talking will diminish the effect.
The Crown Jewel
The clitoris is an amazingly complex structure, similar in function to the male's glans, but surprisingly - up to four times more sensitive. The glans portion of the clitoris holds 6,000 - 8,000 sensory nerve endings, more than any other structure in the human body. This hypersensitive node has only one purpose: pleasure. Nothing exceeds its ability to receive and transmit sensations of touch, pressure or vibration. The glans are the "crown jewel" of the clitoral system!
Stroke the clitoris with clockwise and counter-clockwise circles. Gently squeeze it between thumb and index fingers. Do this as a massage and not to get the receiver off. The receiver will undoubtedly become very aroused but continue to encourage her to relax and breathe.
Slowly and with great care, insert the middle finger of your right hand into the Yoni (there is a reason for using the right hand as opposed to the left. It has to do with polarity in Tantra).Very gently explore and massage the inside of the Yoni with this finger. Take your time, be gentle, and feel up, down and sideways. Vary the depth, speed and pressure. It is important to remember that this is a massage in which you are nurturing and relaxing the Yoni. With your palm facing up, and the middle finger inside the Yoni, move the middle finger in a "come here" gesture or crook back towards the palm. You will contact a spongy area of tissue just under the pubic bone, behind the clitoris. This is the G-spot or in Tantra, "the sacred spot". She may feel the need to urinate, experience a little discomfort or most hopefully pleasure. Vary the pressure, speed and pattern of movement. You can move side to side, back and forth, or in circles with your middle finger. You can also insert the finger that's between your middle finger and pinky.
Most women should have no problem and will enjoy the increased stimulation from two fingers. Take your time and be very gentle. You may use the thumb of the right hand to stimulate the clitoris as well. An option to try if the receiver wants it is to insert the pinky of the right hand into her anus. [In Tantra, it is said that when your pinky is gently massaging her anus, the next finger and middle finger in her Yoni and your thumb on her clitoris, "You are holding one of the mysteries of the universe in your hand."]
You can use your left hand to massage her breasts, abdomen, or clitoris. If you massage the clitoris it's usually best to use the thumb in an up
down motion, with the rest of the hand resting on, and massaging the mound. The dual stimulation of right and left hands will provide much pleasure for the receiver. Continue massaging, using varying speed, pressure and motion, all the while continuing to breathe deeply and looking into each other's eyes. She may have powerful emotions come up and may cry. Just keep breathing and be gentle. Some women have been sexually abused and need to be healed. A giving, loving and patient partner can be of immeasurable value to her. If she has an orgasm, keep her breathing, and continue massaging if she wants. More orgasms may occur, each gaining in intensity. In Tantra this is called "riding the wave."
In ending the massage, slowly, gently, and with respect, remove your hands. Allow her to relax and enjoy the afterglow of the Yoni massage. Cuddling or holding is very soothing as well. As you learn to master the Yoni Massage your sex life will be greatly enriched and you will learn a great deal about feminine sexuality.
The goal of the Yoni massage is not solely to achieve orgasm, although orgasm is often a pleasant and welcome side effect. The goal can be as simple as to pleasure and massage the Yoni. From this perspective both receiver and giver can relax, and do not have to worry about achieving any particular goal. When orgasm does occur it is usually more expanded, more intense and more satisfying. It is also helpful for the giver to not expect anything in return, but simply allow the receiver to enjoy the massage and to relax into herself.
The Massage
Have the receiver lie on her back with pillows under her head so she can look down at her genitals and up at her partner (giver). Place a pillow, covered with a towel, under her hips. Her legs are to be spread apart with the knees slightly bent (pillows or cushions under the knees will also help) and her genitals clearly exposed for the massage. This position allows full access to the Yoni and other parts of the body. Before contacting the body, begin with deep, relaxed breathing. Both giver and receiver should remember to breathe deeply, slowly and with relaxation during the entire process. The giver will gently remind the receiver to start breathing again if the receiver stops or begins to take shallower breaths. Deep breathing, not hyperventilating, is most important.
Gently squeeze the outer lip between the thumb and index finger, and slide up and down the entire length of each lip. Do the same to the inner lips of the Yoni/vagina. Take your time. It is helpful for giver and receiver to look into each other's eyes as much as possible. The receiver should tell the giver if the pressure, speed, depth, etc. need to be increased or decreased. Limit your conversation and focus on the pleasurable sensation, too much talking will diminish the effect.
The Crown Jewel
The clitoris is an amazingly complex structure, similar in function to the male's glans, but surprisingly - up to four times more sensitive. The glans portion of the clitoris holds 6,000 - 8,000 sensory nerve endings, more than any other structure in the human body. This hypersensitive node has only one purpose: pleasure. Nothing exceeds its ability to receive and transmit sensations of touch, pressure or vibration. The glans are the "crown jewel" of the clitoral system!
Stroke the clitoris with clockwise and counter-clockwise circles. Gently squeeze it between thumb and index fingers. Do this as a massage and not to get the receiver off. The receiver will undoubtedly become very aroused but continue to encourage her to relax and breathe.
You can use your left hand to massage her breasts, abdomen, or clitoris. If you massage the clitoris it's usually best to use the thumb in an up
In ending the massage, slowly, gently, and with respect, remove your hands. Allow her to relax and enjoy the afterglow of the Yoni massage. Cuddling or holding is very soothing as well. As you learn to master the Yoni Massage your sex life will be greatly enriched and you will learn a great deal about feminine sexuality.
Diary of Tantra Massage
Diary of a Tantra Massage
An actual account from a woman’s perspective.
Prologue
For most of our lives, women serve as the caretakers in our society. We give birth to, and raise our children. We care for the men in our lives, providing a home that nurtures the soul. For many of us, we are the primary caretakers of the bedroom as well. We find ourselves focused primarily on pleasuring our men, rarely giving a thought to our own needs. Of course our men do please us, but it is usually part of a ritual that is in response to our pleasuring them first. Recently however, after reading about Tantra massage, I decided that it was time to take a moment to focus purely on my own special needs.
At its highest form, Tantra Massage is an extraordinarily intimate encounter. To view it otherwise is to diminish its value. This is the story of my first experience with Tantra. It will hopefully not be the last. I began this journey by looking for a partner who would help me to explore more deeply who I was, both as a woman and as a sensual spiritual being. I found my tantric "guide", in White Lotus East, after a great deal of Internet research. A series of sensitive e-mail communications, ultimately gave me the confidence to make an appointment. Our electronic dialog made me feel that "my guide's" approach would be clear and loving, with a keen awareness of my physical, emotional and sexual needs. I would not be disappointed by my initial judgment.
Preparation
My own personal preparation began more than a week prior to our arranged meeting. Feeling both hopeful and confident about my guide's approach to Tantra Massage, I had every expectation that I would be in good hands. My guide would focus on creating an experience, during which my sensuality would be fully and completely explored. It was clear that we would begin slowly, allowing for this experience to unfold gradually and naturally. We would not be rushed. I was told to expect the session to last from two to three hours.
A few days prior to our meeting, I began a process of conscious preparation. I wanted my body to be as receptive as possible. I took steps to make myself more available, lathering myself with more lotion and body oil than usual, so as to soften my skin. I waxed my pubic and labial area, in order to more visually expose my clitoris, making it more accessible to touch. I performed increased my sessions of Kegel exercises to prepare my vaginal area for stimulation. I also began to fantasize about the session, only later fully realizing that this “visualization exercise” would be an important tool in allowing me to relax into the experience.
The Appointment
I arrived right on time and although will confess to some nervousness, my momentary anxiety was abated when the door opened to reveal my guide’s open arms and welcoming smile. We began our meeting with wine and conversation. Taking the edge off with about 15 minutes of initial “getting to know you” pleasantries, before the subject actually drifted toward my purpose in being there. Again I was given the opportunity to express the nature of my interest and expectations. Satisfied that I had made the right decision, I accepted my guide's offer to tour WLE’s exquisite space.
The Bath Ceremony
My full modesty was preserved as I donned a beautiful robe and slippers before heading toward the bubble bath, brimming with rose petals. My guide took my robe from me, glancing away in a sign of respect for my privacy, as I stepped into bath. We chatted casually as my guide relaxed my body, rubbing my feet, my legs and my inner thigh. Occasionally, my guide's hand would drift tantalizingly near my mound, but only casually and very simply. I sat in awe as my guide easily and effortlessly played with my body, brushing bubbles over my breasts and cupping them gently.
We did not stay in the bath as long as I might have desired, as my guide was concerned not to over saturate my skin with water, lessening the pleasure of the massage to follow. In my robe again, we moved to the massage studio, where I was invited to lie face down upon the table, resting my head on a fresh towel and firm pillow. Having already removed my robe, my modesty was now partially protected by a towel running lengthwise across my midsection.
The Massage
Beginning at my shoulders, my guide applied lavish quantities of oil upon my body. My guide's hands then rubbed along my back, sides and up toward the sides of my breasts. With my hands extended over my head, I found myself anticipating more. Soon, I found myself crying silently for more. How rich an experience it was to realize all that I needed was to relax and enjoy the ecstasy of this exquisite touch.
Eventually it became time to remove the solitary towel, my body now crying out for exploration. As if reading my mind my guide's well-oiled hands began to stroke along my buttocks; exploring up and down the crease; moving from my labia to my rosebud. Occasionally my guide would grasp my labial lips, holding them for a prolonged moment. This was an extremely sensual experience and I found myself reflexively arching my back to allow better access to my clit. I was left breathless and in ecstasy, a word I find myself repeating over and over again to describe this experience.
By now, my guide's fingers had made it to most of the intimate parts of my body. Simultaneously massaging my clitoris, one finger firmly atop my rosebud, with another inserted into my Yoni. Soon, I was “riding the wave” of back-to-back orgasms. Knowing that I was completely in my guide's hands, literally and figuratively, allowing full access to wherever these intuitive and talented fingers were being guided. Amazingly, at that moment, I did not hesitate or feel reluctant for all of my body to be explored. My entire body now writhed and quivered uncontrollably as my buttocks thrust in the air, over and over again. I had relinquished control, and it was wonderful.
Encore
Just as I thought that there was no more to be done, I was given the opportunity to rest. Having caught my breath, my guide helped me to roll over and onto my back. Then, just as before, a towel was placed across my midsection. At this point, with little inhibition, I secretly hoped that it would soon be removed. I now found it difficult to restrain myself, in anticipation of again being complete nude and unencumbered.
Mercifully, I would not have to wait for long, as my guide began to massage my breasts, then my inner thigh. Removing the towel now exposed my smooth and freshly waxed private area. Including my swollen clitoris, which now presented itself for attention. And it did receive attention, as did my labia, Yoni and “rosebud”. My Goddess Spot was explored as I quivered over and over again. My release felt endless as my guide and I came together to understand my body. It was stunning to know that after 40 years on this planet so much could be revealed to me about the inner workings of my physical being.
I was exhausted and invigorated all at the same time. I would sleep well that night, awaking the following morning with a feeling of clarity and creativity that can only be found when the body and mind and truly cleansed.
Re-living my experience
During the days, which followed, I found myself looking back on that afternoon with a sense of memory that would previously have been unimaginable. Simply recalling the moment would produce orgasmic quivers! Tantra Massage provides a vehicle for addressing the total needs of the female body, it has it’s own rhythm and purpose. The experience has opened my eyes and my body to a new level of being and I will forever be changed by the experience.
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